Have you ever been able to go to lunch, carpool, or otherwise had an extended conversation with a coworker? Do you ever have opportunities to talk with friends or family you know are lost?
Once you get past the small talk about the weather, your kids, or Fill-In-the-Blank Sports Team, a person’s worldview becomes evident very quickly.
The question becomes then, how can I share my worldview to a person who inherently disagrees with it?
Author and professor Tim Muehlhoff says there is a strategy for having difficult conversations; helping us move from contentious debate to constructive dialogue.
Muehlhoff believes that by acknowledging and entering into the other person’s story, we are more likely to understand where they’re coming from and to cultivate common ground; the foundation laid from taking a personal interest in the other person allows Christians to share insights from Scripture that pertain to the person’s life.
But with any type of communication, we must seek the Lord’s guidance before we talk:
- “I just think we need to step back and even ask the Lord as Christians, ‘give me discernment on what I’m about to do’…I think we need to be very careful; our mouths are like loaded weapons. We need to be very careful about what we’re shooting at.”
Tim joined Ted and PK to discuss his book I Beg to Differ, sharing more insights on how to talk with unbelievers and tips on how to effectively communicate with them:
If you’d like to delve even deeper, here’s another interview with Tim and Faith Radio’s Neil Stavem.
In addition to being an author, Tim is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.