One of the specific mindsets that can help you can lead a more fulfilled life is a “We are Connected” mindset. Relationships are at the heart of this mindset. We were created to be in relationship, with God and with other people. When we adopt this mindset we seek synergies in relationships, we look for ways to add value to other people and we maximize positive relationships in our lives. It’s about collaborating with others rather than competing with others. Embracing this mindset leads us to more fulfillment in our relationships.
Interestingly, researchers have found that the majority of people think in direct opposition to this mindset. For instance:
- We often feel that we are going through the challenges of life alone. That leads us to keep to ourselves and isolate. Yet it those times when it is most critical to reach out to others. Your vulnerability will strengthen your friendships.
- We often feel like we are the only one who is going through what we are going through. However, we can be encouraged by the fact that others have faced the challenges we have and come out stronger because of it. Just look to the suffering Jesus endured when you think no one can possibly understand what you are going through.
- We often minimize the impact we have on other people. We forget our worth and our value and that God created us for a plan and a purpose.
Every interaction you have with others is a chance for you to make an impact. That impact could be positive or negative – it’s up to you. That’s the beauty of mindsets; you get a choice.
Likewise, every interaction other people have with you is either a positive or negative impact. If you find that you are spending excessive time with people who drag you down rather than lifting you up, it’s time to be intentional about who you surround yourself with. Sometimes there are people who have been in your life who you may need to spend less time with; you can still pray for them from afar.
When you look for evidence of this mindset in everyday situations, you will see find it. You just need to look for it. It’s like paying attention to a car you are shopping for – suddenly you see that model everywhere. This is no different – if you start looking for ways people are connected and impacting each other, you will find examples.
Knowing isn’t the same as doing; do something to lean into this mindset. Reach out to someone you’ve been meaning to get in touch with and see where it leads. Every step creates momentum.
“We are Connected” is mindset #3 of the 7 Mindsets that lead to happiness, success and fulfillment in life. The next 7 Mindsets training opportunity is Thursday, June 21, 2018 1:00 – 4:30 pm at the DoubleTree by Hilton in West Fargo. Find out more at Teresa’s website or find Teresa on Facebook. Group discounts are available!
Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.
so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others.