Victim to victor
By: Teresa Lewis
The 7 Mindsets are a culmination of a research project asking the question, what is it that the happiest, most successful people have in common? It is the way you think that leads to a life of happiness, success, fulfillment and meaning.
Let’s explore mindset #4: 100% Accountable
When we embrace this mindset, we take ownership for our choices and ultimately, our happiness and success. This means we take ownership for ALL of our decisions…the things we’ve done, the things we’ve left undone, the words we speak, what we eat, what we spend, and how we take care of ourselves.
Have you ever noticed how we judge others according to their actions, but we judge ourselves for our intentions? Many of us have a problem with personal accountability because it eliminates excuses and blame.
I received an email from someone who had spent a day learning how to embrace this in a 7 Mindsets training: “If you surround yourself with victims you are one, it doesn’t matter if life is good now, the past was worst so let’s dwell there, new adventures are exciting but fear takes hold and so we don’t go forward. Today I picked up the 7 mindsets book and started reading where it opened up to.. 100% Accountable. It was after reading it for the third time I realized the problem …. ME. I need to show up in my own life and not leave it for others to set my compass.”
Maybe the problems aren’t following us, but we are bringing the problems with us … like a backpack we are lugging around. How often does fear prevent us from action? A friend once told me that she didn’t think God wanted us to live in fear. This is truth we find in 2 Timothy 1:7 For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.
Self-discipline is really the root of this mindset. If we take control of that which we can control (ourselves), the world will be a better place. Then we truly embrace the 100% Accountable mindset.
Research has shown that most people think in direct opposition to the mindsets that lead to happiness and success. The counter mindsets that work against being accountable are prevalent:
- The victim mentality; I’m a victim of my past circumstances
- Blame; it’s not my fault — it’s my parents’ fault, the economy, the government
- “Bad luck” follows me; remember Eeyore and the storm cloud?
Being 100% Accountable is about taking responsibility yet it isn’t about guilt over past choices. You can choose to accept forgiveness; therein is is the heart of Easter.
Knowing isn’t the same as doing; do something to lean into this mindset. Become a victor not a victim. Every step creates momentum.
So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God.
But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken.