Just before bedtime these three words came matter-of-factly from my oldest son, “I hate school.” He’s in 2nd grade.
My two sons are excelling in school – in their schoolwork, friendships, and relationships with their teachers. In the last few months though I’ve seen some weariness creep in as they realize school is something they’ll do nearly every day for 10+ more years!
So what do I do when they don’t want to go?
Michele Timmons, a mom and teacher for 20 years says,
Get to the heart of the matter by finding the root cause for your child’s feelings. Set aside some time to have a one-on-one conversation with your child about school. Ask open ended questions to learn more about what they really like and dislike about school.
Parenting skills educator Patty Wipfler says,
Help your child with her feelings. Listening to her talk or cry about the teacher or about some injustice in the classroom will enable her to figure out ways to avoid a bad situation or protect herself … Your other task is to help your child deal with the damaging things that she does encounter in school, such as classmates who constantly tease or fight, or teachers who belittle or punish children or act irrationally toward them. Work out with your child how and how much she wants you to help.
Other parenting blogs point out that disliking school is often just “the cool thing to do” for kids at a certain age.